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Tantric sex – Taoist sexuality

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In Taoist sexuality writings they say, the woman is like water and the man is like fire.

Previously we talked about what tantra is and where it comes from today, we gonna continue from that point and cover some more tantric facts.

What normally happens is the water puts out the fire too quickly, the man is left exhausted and the woman is frustrated. They say there are in fact nine levels of a woman’s orgasm, nine levels that she goes through before she’s fully nourished sexually before her Shakti, her sexual spiritual energy is fully awakened. Most women have their first orgasm at level four; the man ejaculates and the other five levels are rarely reached. We as conscious men, as extraordinary lovers need to be able to make love as long as necessary to satisfy our woman and at the same time reach higher orgasmic states ourselves.

There are two exercises, two techniques that will help with ejaculation control.

One is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other is the breath.

These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure.

The P.C. muscle extends from the base of the spine where it is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone.

A good way to locate the P.C. or love muscle for yourself is that next time you are urinating try to stop the flow of urination in mid stream. This will give you the feeling of activating the muscle. Then later on in your own private space practice tensing and releasing the muscle several times so that you get the sense of how to do it you can know. It is a good idea to incorporate these P.C. Muscle exercises into your daily routine, associating them with some particular activity you do independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then these exercises will become habitual and you won’t have to set aside a special time to practice. For example you can practice while you drive or travel too and from work. No one will know you are doing it and it can be quite enjoyable. One of our friends in fact, Helen said she started doing this every day for a month while driving to work but unfortunately she had to stop because she said the sensations were getting so strong that she couldn’t concentrate at work because she couldn’t think about anything else at work other than sex and she couldn’t wait to get home to her lover.

And once a man has a strong P/C he can spread the sexual energy up and through his body during lovemaking so he can experience wave after wave of peak pleasure without coming so that he can make love for as long as he chooses, maybe even hours!

Another secret is working with your breath. What most men do as excitement builds up is hold their breath as they get close to climax. If men are to reverse the flow of sexual energy the best way is to breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically.

For women to enhance your own ecstasy you can us the P.C. Muscle and breath exercise also. You can do this at peaks of energy to spread the orgasmic energy throughout the body. Another way you can enhance your pleasure is to mentally trace or visualise the energy running up the inside of the legs through the calf, the knees and thighs up into the vagina. This is especially good to do if the mind is wondering off onto other things while making love; it helps focus the energy.

Some women need to focus it rather than to spread it and this can amplify the orgasmic response you already have and is especially good for women who find orgasm elusive. What you do is to keep squeezing the P.C. Muscles without spreading the energy. To squeeze the muscles and to feel the charge building up and keep squeezing the P.C. again. It is important to release and bear down as well; this also acts as a focus. Playing with these elements of breath, P.C. Muscle, visualisation, as well as movement and sound you can extend your orgasmic potential to one, two, three or even more orgasms. All women are capable of extending their orgasmic potential. The woman’s Shakti is unlimited. The Shakti is the sexual spiritual energy of which women are the custodians. As the Shakti awakens so does the priestess, the healer, the empowerer and the goddess of love within.

A Helpful video guide could be found below.

Introduction to Tantric Lovemaking

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Introduction to tantra

Tantric Lovemaking, Secrets and Practices

Tantra is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence, very similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female energies to create harmony and have an ultimate goal of unity or spiritual ecstasy, known as enlightenment. Tantra encourages one to explore every aspect of life. So obviously the study of sexuality was included, not only included but in fact revered.

Making love was seen as a gift to God. So there was no repression or guilt attached to sex. It taught that when a man approaches his beloved he should have a sacred feeling as if he were going into a temple. The art of sexual love was the noblest of arts to study. As a young person in ancient India you could go to the sacred temples and be taught lovemaking secrets by Darkas and Darkinis, the priests and priestesses of love. The study of sexuality in the west is very new, whereas relics of Tantric rituals date back nearly five thousand years. So there is an incredible wealth of knowledge we can draw on and use in our own lovemaking.

Tantric lovemaking can add to the ways you make love in 3 major areas:

It gives you ways to reach heightened states of ecstasy and pleasure beyond the realms of normal sex;
It teaches you ways to open to more love so that your heart opens even more to your partner and you remember how great it feels to be deeply, passionately “in love.”
it teaches Sacred Sex- ways to transform your lovemaking into a sacred experience which will touch you on every level of your being, body, heart and soul

A male can increase and expand the amount of ecstasy he can have and at the same time increase the length of time he is able to make love so that his partner has a chance of reaching higher states.

Ejaculation control is an essential skill to master so that during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first peak of energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with that energy and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire body. Then as the urgency for ejaculation subsides, continue to make love again until reaching another peak – much higher than the first peak and then he can use techniques to peak and spread the energy again. As he Continues to do this, reaching higher and higher peaks of ecstasy and at the same time his beloved is feeling that energy and is being warmed up to higher orgasmic states. Ejaculation control is a skill that can be learned like any other skill. With the guidance of reading “sexual secrets for men: a man can learn to enjoy more and more pleasure without the urgency to come.

Me and my partner used Guided Home Audio Tantra Course to achieve great tantric sexual experience. It’s a great guide that get’s you just where you are headed to “Orgasmic Heaven”

Silicon Based Lubricants

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Silicon based lubricant

Previously we discussed water based lubes, and as promised, we gonna discuss silicon based lubes, which are almost most common lubricants, right after water based. They are very popular because they are longer lasting meaning that you don’t have to constantly to reapply it.

Avoid using silicon based lube when doing any oral stuff and also if you use latex condoms, use different kind of lubricant, because latex and silicon don’t get along too well.

Advantages

Silicon based lubricants stay slick longer than other lubricants, because they are not absorbed by the skin itself. That means no constant reapplying.
Slick, Silky, Comfortable
Can be use in the watter because of unique property of being watter resistant
Less likely to cause allergic reactions, because the silicon based lubricant is not absorbed by the skin

Disadvantages

It doesn’t taste good
Silicon based lubricants are harder to wash off of clothing and bedsheets, because of water resistance property
Not to be used with silicon toys. They make silicon toys degrade faster
If you wanna use it with the condoms, please always check the labels if condoms and lubricant get along
It’s expensive with regard water based lubricants

You can purchase silicon based lubricants and select between many vendors and manufacturers here lubricants.

T-Square Sex Position

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T-Square sex position

Her: Lay back and raise the knees up and spread the legs apart. If the position is to difficult to maintain use the pillow
Him: Place yourself perpendicular to your partner. She lies on your side forming a T. Place the hips under her legs and begin with penetration.

Lubrication – Water Based Lubricants

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Water based lubricant

So ok, I presume we all know what the lubricants are right ?

For those of you that don’t; sex lubricants aka. lubes are that sticky jelly-fluid like thing, that reduces friction between different body parts as penis, vagina, anus etc. during sexual acts, making love or masturbation. They are used when the person or a partner doesn’t produce sufficient of it’s own body fluids (girlfriend is not wet enough), to reduce friction and to experience better pleasure and after all longer and better orgasms.

Firstly we’ll talk about water based lubricants and some time later about silicon based lubricants.

Water based lubricants are in general more recommended from doctors, because they are made out of more »natural« ingredients and are based on water. So they are considered safer than silicone based.

Lubricants in action
This type of lubricants vary from very thick as jelly to thin as water itself. Tickier lubricants are used when you like to invite your plastic toy’s in your sex life or in anal play. As thinner in everyday use. But not necessarily. Water based lubricants main feature is that they are so slick and smooth and not sticky and messy like other lubes.

Lubricant removal
When the lube dries up as thicker the lube, tackier feeling when it dries up. Usually the cleaning isn’t so hard in this case you use just a little of warm water and the lube is off.

Since they are water-soluble, skin absorbs it and that means it needs to be reapplied. We’ll since we all know how it feels to be interrupted in that heat of the moment, this is one drawback of water based lubricants.

And one more thing if the lube contains glycerin it may promote infection in women, so the best thing to avoid this problem is that she washes off right after using it.

Which one is the right for you ?
Every lubricant reacts different on every body, thats why you would hear from a friend no no, this lubricant is the best, it last very long, and yet again some other friends will try to convince you that other lube is better, because it worked best for them. So which lube is right for you ? Hmm that’s a hard one to answer. The most accurate answer is try them out, and find out which works best for you !

My advice here is if you are up for a quickie use the lube ! As we all know how long most of the women takes to get all ready to go the water based lubricants are the right way to increase a pleasure for you both.

Viennese Oyster sex position

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Viennese Oyster sex position

In the Viennese Oyster sex position, women lays on the back with their lower back and legs raised in the way that their ankles are crossed behind their head. So this position requires some flexibility. Men lays atop the women to do some hard work on the groin area for greater and better orgasm. Moves are pretty standard, men moves up and down atop the women to create some friction. Meantime you ladies can play with yourself and help your men by grabbing his butt and pushing it towards you in the rhythm of love.

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6 myths about men and their sexuality

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MEN – Busting Female myths about men

Men can have sexual intercourse anytime anywhere

Of course there are moments in men’s life when he can have sex anytime anywhere, but not without timeout. But this moments are mostly exceptions than rules. Men psyche plays a big role in this. We have to know his physical state , if his workaholic, is under a lot of stress, etc. With years men mature, as matures theirs view on sex that differs from that in the teen age. If they don’t feel that emotional bond, than you can’t persuade them into sex.

Men are romantic because of women

Wrong ! Men are romantic but in the other way than women. Every men shows it’s inclination to his partner in the different way.

Men always take the initiative for sex

That’s just not true. Just think how your men enjoys watching you teasing and seducing him. As researches show 93% of all men are eraused watching partner getting undressed in front of him (longer foreplay, stronger and better orgasm). So we men are really visually sensitive things and we like it that way.

Men think about sex every 7 seconds

Of course NOT. If you think about it, you will shortly come to the conclusion that if we are awake 17 hours a day, we think about sex only 61.000 times a day ? Oh god, but how do we manage to get other things done ?

Men don’t like kissing with one exception of french kissing

Oh come on please. Let me mention just two things. First can you think how you like to kiss (first this and than that way). And second there was a research made among 50.000 man, and let me tell you men like kissing. And also we like to watch kissing two womens.

Men have sex because of quick orgasm

In my opinion this myth was made because of men premature ejaculation.

Few simple steps to agitate your women all this to achieve better orgasm

peter — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 16:39:29 +0000

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Love silhouetted

Well I’m glad you choose to take the hard way !
So you decided to have open conversation with your partner and now you are ready to take the second step.

Have you ever asked yourself why it’s called »making love« and not »making sex« ?
Well I did. Usually when you make love it’s ment to make something out of your and partners love, usually a child (I’m thinking that was more like in the old days). Nowdays is all that but without a child; instead of a child it’s the orgasm that counts right ? Welcome to the new world.
Don’t get me wrong children are still important, but if we would be making kids every time we make love, the world would be overpopulated decades ago.

So let’s make love the right way. But what is the right way ?

In my previous post I mentioned that the ways from perception point of view is completely different for men and for women. In the other hand the goal is the same. Both partners want to make each other happy helping each other achieving as intense ejaculation / orgasm as possible. Should I even mention that mutual respect is at most importance. Without that we are yet again at square one.

I actually found a really useful guide which helped me so much with this. You can see it here if you are interested.

I know that everyone’s ego wants to achieve better orgasm regards to what partner thinks. We need to learn how to bridle our egos. It’s hard in the beginning but if you work it out with your partner it’s much easier than you think.

The next big thing is kissing. Women are crazy about kissing and cuddling that makes them feel even more loved. So foreplay that includes kissing and cuddling will definitely make your partner wet. Just remember take it slow and be dedicated towards a common goal, better pleasure for both of you.

So what else ? The women Erogenous zones.

We all know the major ones right ? But let’s concentrate on ones we usually neglect.

Kiss, nibble, caress next areas :

The bottom : women are usually very self conscious about this part of the body so make them know, That you really like it.

Neck : highly erotic for some women but not all of them

Inner thighs : Kiss it lick it, It makes them go wild. Start just above the knee and work it slowly towards the vagina. But don’t go straight to vagina, oh noooo don’t let her have it. Go all around it and put your hand on pubic bone work it out I’ll know when to go to clitoris.

Lower back : where the spine ends, this is highly sensitive area.
Breasts : what it is to say about breasts ? We all like to massage them, kiss them lick them. Usually men think that focusing on nipples is gonna achieve the most erotic effect on the women; wrong ! It’s areola ! Lick areola in circular movements.
Clitoris : The Queen of female erogenous zones. Well what can I say. Be gentle with it. Kiss It , Lick It in circular movements, but remember be gentle. Your partner will show you when to put more pressure on it with you tongue.

Go ahead try it out and remember talk to your partner, find out what works for her, not every women likes everything the other women likes. It surely worked for me and my partner. Try it out yourself ! In case you are interested I found really helpful guide that changed my love life to something so much better. You can read about it here.

My experiences and hopefully your first step to become a better lover

peter — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 11:19:02 +0000

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better lover

So you want to become a better lover, achieve better intenser orgasm ? Well so did I. Please let me tell you my story…

If I look back, I think that anyone goes thru these phases; when you are young you just want to do it you know to have sex as soone as possible, so you can fell better (more respected) among friends. And after years when we’re more »mature« (at least we think we are) usually couples split up because other partner is boring, isn’t fun spending time with anymore and become weary of each other. We all know this I think we all ‘ve been there well at least I know I was there on the edge of despair in my sexual and love life.

It’s very easy to hope that love life is gonna be better and do nothing about it. Usually this direction »hope« is headed into a life of frustration.

I’ve been there, but luckily for me at one point in my life I said to myself »ok so I’ve taken the easy way and nothing changed, same old story, but now I have had it ! I’m gonna go for the hard way«. Well let me tell you something about the hard way, I like it !

I mean not the path it self but the end result of it. We man are hmm how should I say It well we are what we are Sex is just sex to us right ? just pleasure. But for women, well that’s a different story. It’s all connected to the feelings towards the partner. I know the times when I used to be very frustrated when my partner couldn’t achieve orgasm. I knew techniques, I knew positions I knew every thing there is about intercourse but I was making a big mistake somewhere else. Can you guess it what it was ? Yes deep partner to partner conversation. After you understand to listen to a womens feelings and show her love in the way they want us to show them you are on the right track.

After all talking, conversation sharing your thoughts, feelings in real life is a key in any good relationship right ?

Well that’s It the very first step to become better lover and to achieve mutual better orgasms is for you to decide to take the HARD way, thru talking, sharing your feeling and revealing it to your partner.