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Written on June 28th, 2010 by adminone shout
tantric sexual experience
In Taoist sexuality writings they say, the woman is like water and the man is like fire.
Previously we talked about what tantra is and where it comes from today, we gonna continue from that point and cover some more tantric facts.
What normally happens is the water puts out the fire too quickly, the man is left exhausted and the woman is frustrated. They say there are in fact nine levels of a woman’s orgasm, nine levels that she goes through before she’s fully nourished sexually before her Shakti, her sexual spiritual energy is fully awakened. Most women have their first orgasm at level four; the man ejaculates and the other five levels are rarely reached. We as conscious men, as extraordinary lovers need to be able to make love as long as necessary to satisfy our woman and at the same time reach higher orgasmic states ourselves.
There are two exercises, two techniques that will help with ejaculation control.
One is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other is the breath.
These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure.
The P.C. muscle extends from the base of the spine where it is connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone.
A good way to locate the P.C. or love muscle for yourself is that next time you are urinating try to stop the flow of urination in mid stream. This will give you the feeling of activating the muscle. Then later on in your own private space practice tensing and releasing the muscle several times so that you get the sense of how to do it you can know. It is a good idea to incorporate these P.C. Muscle exercises into your daily routine, associating them with some particular activity you do independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then these exercises will become habitual and you won’t have to set aside a special time to practice. For example you can practice while you drive or travel too and from work. No one will know you are doing it and it can be quite enjoyable. One of our friends in fact, Helen said she started doing this every day for a month while driving to work but unfortunately she had to stop because she said the sensations were getting so strong that she couldn’t concentrate at work because she couldn’t think about anything else at work other than sex and she couldn’t wait to get home to her lover.
And once a man has a strong P/C he can spread the sexual energy up and through his body during lovemaking so he can experience wave after wave of peak pleasure without coming so that he can make love for as long as he chooses, maybe even hours!
Another secret is working with your breath. What most men do as excitement builds up is hold their breath as they get close to climax. If men are to reverse the flow of sexual energy the best way is to breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically.
For women to enhance your own ecstasy you can us the P.C. Muscle and breath exercise also. You can do this at peaks of energy to spread the orgasmic energy throughout the body. Another way you can enhance your pleasure is to mentally trace or visualise the energy running up the inside of the legs through the calf, the knees and thighs up into the vagina. This is especially good to do if the mind is wondering off onto other things while making love; it helps focus the energy.
Some women need to focus it rather than to spread it and this can amplify the orgasmic response you already have and is especially good for women who find orgasm elusive. What you do is to keep squeezing the P.C. Muscles without spreading the energy. To squeeze the muscles and to feel the charge building up and keep squeezing the P.C. again. It is important to release and bear down as well; this also acts as a focus. Playing with these elements of breath, P.C. Muscle, visualisation, as well as movement and sound you can extend your orgasmic potential to one, two, three or even more orgasms. All women are capable of extending their orgasmic potential. The woman’s Shakti is unlimited. The Shakti is the sexual spiritual energy of which women are the custodians. As the Shakti awakens so does the priestess, the healer, the empowerer and the goddess of love within.
A Helpful video guide could be found below.
Written on June 27th, 2010 by adminno shouts
Introduction to tantra
Tantra is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence, very similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female energies to create harmony and have an ultimate goal of unity or spiritual ecstasy, known as enlightenment. Tantra encourages one to explore every aspect of life. So obviously the study of sexuality was included, not only included but in fact revered.
Making love was seen as a gift to God. So there was no repression or guilt attached to sex. It taught that when a man approaches his beloved he should have a sacred feeling as if he were going into a temple. The art of sexual love was the noblest of arts to study. As a young person in ancient India you could go to the sacred temples and be taught lovemaking secrets by Darkas and Darkinis, the priests and priestesses of love. The study of sexuality in the west is very new, whereas relics of Tantric rituals date back nearly five thousand years. So there is an incredible wealth of knowledge we can draw on and use in our own lovemaking.
Tantric lovemaking can add to the ways you make love in 3 major areas:
- It gives you ways to reach heightened states of ecstasy and pleasure beyond the realms of normal sex;
- It teaches you ways to open to more love so that your heart opens even more to your partner and you remember how great it feels to be deeply, passionately “in love.”
- it teaches Sacred Sex- ways to transform your lovemaking into a sacred experience which will touch you on every level of your being, body, heart and soul
A male can increase and expand the amount of ecstasy he can have and at the same time increase the length of time he is able to make love so that his partner has a chance of reaching higher states.
Ejaculation control is an essential skill to master so that during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first peak of energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with that energy and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire body. Then as the urgency for ejaculation subsides, continue to make love again until reaching another peak – much higher than the first peak and then he can use techniques to peak and spread the energy again. As he Continues to do this, reaching higher and higher peaks of ecstasy and at the same time his beloved is feeling that energy and is being warmed up to higher orgasmic states. Ejaculation control is a skill that can be learned like any other skill. With the guidance of reading “sexual secrets for men: a man can learn to enjoy more and more pleasure without the urgency to come.
Me and my partner used
Guided Home Audio Tantra Course to achieve great tantric sexual experience. It’s a great guide that get’s you just where you are headed to “Orgasmic Heaven”
Written on June 26th, 2010 by peterno shouts
T-Square sex position
Her: Lay back and raise the knees up and spread the legs apart. If the position is to difficult to maintain use the pillow
Him: Place yourself perpendicular to your partner. She lies on your side forming a T. Place the hips under her legs and begin with penetration.
Written on November 7th, 2009 by peterone shout
Viennese Oyster sex position
In the Viennese Oyster sex position, women lays on the back with their lower back and legs raised in the way that their ankles are crossed behind their head. So this position requires some flexibility. Men lays atop the women to do some hard work on the groin area for greater and better orgasm. Moves are pretty standard, men moves up and down atop the women to create some friction. Meantime you ladies can play with yourself and help your men by grabbing his butt and pushing it towards you in the rhythm of love.
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Written on October 27th, 2009 by peterone shout
MEN – Busting Female myths about men
- Men can have sexual intercourse anytime anywhere
Of course there are moments in men’s life when he can have sex anytime anywhere, but not without timeout. But this moments are mostly exceptions than rules. Men psyche plays a big role in this. We have to know his physical state , if his workaholic, is under a lot of stress, etc. With years men mature, as matures theirs view on sex that differs from that in the teen age. If they don’t feel that emotional bond, than you can’t persuade them into sex.
- Men are romantic because of women
Wrong ! Men are romantic but in the other way than women. Every men shows it’s inclination to his partner in the different way.
- Men always take the initiative for sex
That’s just not true. Just think how your men enjoys watching you teasing and seducing him. As researches show 93% of all men are eraused watching partner getting undressed in front of him (longer foreplay, stronger and better orgasm). So we men are really visually sensitive things and we like it that way.
- Men think about sex every 7 seconds
Of course NOT. If you think about it, you will shortly come to the conclusion that if we are awake 17 hours a day, we think about sex only 61.000 times a day ? Oh god, but how do we manage to get other things done ?
- Men don’t like kissing with one exception of french kissing
Oh come on please. Let me mention just two things. First can you think how you like to kiss (first this and than that way). And second there was a research made among 50.000 man, and let me tell you men like kissing. And also we like to watch kissing two womens.
- Men have sex because of quick orgasm
In my opinion this myth was made because of men premature ejaculation.
Written on October 24th, 2009 by peterno shouts
Love silhouetted
Well I’m glad you choose to take the hard way !
So you decided to have open conversation with your partner and now you are ready to take the second step.
Have you ever asked yourself why it’s called »making love« and not »making sex« ?
Well I did. Usually when you make love it’s ment to make something out of your and partners love, usually a child (I’m thinking that was more like in the old days). Nowdays is all that but without a child; instead of a child it’s the orgasm that counts right ? Welcome to the new world.
Don’t get me wrong children are still important, but if we would be making kids every time we make love, the world would be overpopulated decades ago.
So let’s make love the right way. But what is the right way ?
In my previous post I mentioned that the ways from perception point of view is completely different for men and for women. In the other hand the goal is the same. Both partners want to make each other happy helping each other achieving as intense ejaculation / orgasm as possible. Should I even mention that mutual respect is at most importance. Without that we are yet again at square one.
I actually found a really useful guide which helped me so much with this. You can see it here if you are interested.
I know that everyone’s ego wants to achieve better orgasm regards to what partner thinks. We need to learn how to bridle our egos. It’s hard in the beginning but if you work it out with your partner it’s much easier than you think.
The next big thing is kissing. Women are crazy about kissing and cuddling that makes them feel even more loved. So foreplay that includes kissing and cuddling will definitely make your partner wet. Just remember take it slow and be dedicated towards a common goal, better pleasure for both of you.
So what else ? The women Erogenous zones.
We all know the major ones right ? But let’s concentrate on ones we usually neglect.
Kiss, nibble, caress next areas :
- The bottom : women are usually very self conscious about this part of the body so make them know, That you really like it.
- Neck : highly erotic for some women but not all of them
- Inner thighs : Kiss it lick it, It makes them go wild. Start just above the knee and work it slowly towards the vagina. But don’t go straight to vagina, oh noooo don’t let her have it. Go all around it and put your hand on pubic bone work it out I’ll know when to go to clitoris.
- Lower back : where the spine ends, this is highly sensitive area.
- Breasts : what it is to say about breasts ? We all like to massage them, kiss them lick them. Usually men think that focusing on nipples is gonna achieve the most erotic effect on the women; wrong ! It’s areola ! Lick areola in circular movements.
- Clitoris : The Queen of female erogenous zones. Well what can I say. Be gentle with it. Kiss It , Lick It in circular movements, but remember be gentle. Your partner will show you when to put more pressure on it with you tongue.
Go ahead try it out and remember talk to your partner, find out what works for her, not every women likes everything the other women likes. It surely worked for me and my partner. Try it out yourself ! In case you are interested I found really helpful guide that changed my love life to something so much better. You can read about it here.
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